How to Navigate Disagreements Without Losing Your Peace (or Your People)
Friends, family and colleagues can be awesome, and they can also present opportunities to check ourselves - especially when we don’t see things they way they do. Disagreements are part of life. Whether they show up at the dinner table, in the breakroom, or on your group text, they’re bound to happen. And while it can feel uncomfortable, the truth is—disagreements aren’t always bad. In fact, they can be an opportunity for deeper connection and understanding…if we’re willing to handle them with care.
We weren’t meant to be the same. If we were exactly like our spouse, friends, or coworkers, one of us wouldn’t be necessary. Our unique perspectives, lived experiences, and values are what make our relationships beautiful.
Think of life like a tapestry. It’s the combination of different threads—some soft, some strong, some vibrant, some muted—that create something meaningful. It’s not uniformity that makes it beautiful, but unity in the midst of difference.
You’ve probably heard the advice to “just let it go.” But is that really possible? I believe it’s more helpful to process and release.
When you feel the urge to address a disagreement, pause and reflect:
What am I feeling? (Anger? Disappointment? Resentment?)
Why do I feel this way?
Is this about the issue—or is it about feeling disrespected, unheard, or needing to be right?
Am I acting out of love or ego?
If the disagreement is causing harm, damaging trust, or weighing on your heart, it’s worth addressing. But if you’re simply seeking validation or vindication, it might be time to release it—for the sake of your peace.
Not all conflict comes from ego, but a lot of it does. When we try to “win” an argument to satisfy our pride, we’re often sacrificing peace for the sake of being right. That rarely ends well.
Here’s the hard truth: you can’t change someone’s mind by arguing them into submission. (You’ve tried it, right? Or are you just a better person than I am)? It leaves both parties tired, hurt, and even more set in their ways.
Instead, choose to lead by example. Let your consistency, kindness, and integrity speak for you.
Disagreements are unavoidable—especially when it comes to standing up for what’s right or protecting your boundaries. That’s okay. But even then, it helps to ask: Do I care more about being right or being kind?
I have strong beliefs—spiritually, politically, and personally. And many people I love see the world very differently. I’ve learned that arguing doesn’t change hearts. What does? Living out my values with clarity and compassion. I don’t call people out—I call them up. I try to live in a way that empowers, encourages, and creates space for healing.
This world doesn’t need more shame or passive-aggressive social media posts. It needs people willing to offer grace while still holding truth. When we remind people of their value—even in disagreement—we create space for growth, not just conflict.
Calling someone up means:
Believing they are capable of more
Speaking with love, not spite
Encouraging progress instead of punishing mistakes
Every time we choose to be the good and see the good in someone, we help write a better story for our communities—and ourselves.
Want to hear more about handling disagreements? Check out this throwback TV segment on the topic.
When was the last time you navigated a disagreement with grace instead of pride? What helped you choose connection over conflict?
I’d love to hear from you in the comments. Let’s grow together.
